Saturday, April 26, 2008

Quelling feminine passions...

Quelling Feminine Passions……..
This post comes out of an inspiration from an exotic article which I read in a magazine. The scenario of finding grooms through various sources is not very new to me as my elder sisters too faced the same situation. Relatives come to the first rescue followed by enquiries from horoscope parivardhanaas.Trends of these days are BharatMatrimony,shaadi.com.etc,.not to mention the matrimonial section of the Sunday paper. Stung by the TSF (tall,fair,slim)complex each guy is an Abhishek Bacchan in our community. Parents of the bride primarily pin their hopes on horoscope match. They are ready to get their daughter married to a ten year elder groom just because of the horoscope match. What parents fail is, to meet the expectations of their daughter. Though arranged marriages have evolved with the time, not the mindset of orthodox parents.some parents are even ready to offer diamond earings, necklace, and dowry apart from the installment lump sums for each festive occasion. The pity is that the groom himself is not worthy if it. There is a maxim in tamil goes like this..pulla killi maaplanu sonna andha pullu kooda aadum..(call a piece of grass as a groom and it will start demanding things..).Amidst these, the only expectation of these parents is to look their daughter happy for the rest of her lifetime. When photos are exchanged again the groom enjoys his privilege of choice whereas a girl is looked upon with contempt if she disagrees to her parents wish.Then comes the final act of wedding…after which the girl is forced to undergo a rapid metamorphosis to acclimatize the new environment , also to ensure a peaceful living in her house.She does this by sacrificing her dreams, expectations,likes and dislikes just to get her parents, a good name. This is the condition of major proportion of girls in our country.
Coming to the new world of ‘assisted marriages’ which satiates a girl’s dream in finding a suitable companion. It can be a semi-arranged or arranged love marriages and the only thing you have to be sure of is that you want to get married.Atleast ensure that your likes and dislikes matches with that of his. This is a very important aspect because matrimony is such a delicate relationship that a small disagreement in opinions could lead to a torn relationship.I have seen many people who are bad decision makers when it come marriage,they either go in for physical beauty mostly or for the kind of wealth that a girl brings from her house. Physical beauty is transient with age and money cannot give you all you want in life.The best intelligence of a girl should be in careful selection of her spouse, so have an open mind, you might just find yourself lucky J….